Ojasvi Soni Das




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By Ojasvi Soni Das

M for Marriage, M for MBA

I have been following Sheryl Sandberg for a few years now. While all her comments on women in business are powerful, my favourite has been “I truly believe that the single most important career decision that a woman makes is whether she will have a life partner and who that partner is.”

Irrespective of your gender, once you are married, the personality of your partner starts having an influence on your own behaviours, some of which you exhibit at your workplace and in achieving your life goals. Your spouse can make or break you, and believe you me it’s not just about sharing equal responsibilities but also about the amount of positivity a good partner brings in when you try to emulate each other’s best behaviours.

I married last year to the love of my life and since then my life has turned upside down – but all for good. I recently got into my dream school for a one year MBA and I am extremely excited at the thought of moving to one of the most reputed global universities to pursue my goals. But let me rewind the entire story for you.

I was amongst the first ones in my peer group to tie the knot and hence was absolutely apprehensive about how marrying early would weigh on my life goals while all my girl friends would still be single and have the most amount of independence in pursuing their dreams. And all this was coming from the age long perception I had about Indian marriages. It goes without saying that any marriage will include duties and responsibilities – which include housework  and the provision of financial security. However in India we let our genders decide who does what and that is what completely defeats the definition of marriage.

Talking about my marriage, I must have completely hit a jackpot then when I married my husband. I was a naïve 24 year old girl when I married him and on the other hand he was a lot more mature at 30. So I was surprised at some of his behaviours which were completely different from the ones I had seen in my dad. Well different and better to be precise. We were equals. We had turns for making meals and grocery shopping. I had never seen my dad make even a cup of tea at home and moreover my mom never had any grudges of managing the entire household alongside having a challenging profession.

Two months into marriage I expressed my desire to him to pursue an MBA from one of the top B-schools . I had already been working for 3 years then and had some strong credentials under my belt in terms of my work and grades.

I still remember his first reaction when he heard this. “You have always made me proud and you shall always will. Come on. Let’s do it!” he said. Tears welled up in my eyes knowing that I had made my best career decision ever in choosing him as my life partner. Twelve months later I received my final offer from one of the most renowned global universities and here I am planning to start the new phase of my life.

I still remember the moment when I entered gasping inside my interview location for my B-school interview and there I met a cohort of similar aspiring MBA women. All of them unmarried stood amazed at how I was managing this ugly cycle of GMAT, applications and interviews despite being married alongside having a full-time challenging job and a part-time freelancing profession.

Looking back, I believe there are three major reasons I would not be at this place had I not had his back.

1. Equal Responsibility – We acted as a team

He took up my dream as his own. There were times when I did nothing except sitting on my study table during my GMAT preparations and he came back from office after a 14 hour day and made dinner for us, did dishes and then sat with me discussing my progress on test. Then drafting my essays when I slept and he stood awake doing them. He researched more than me on all the schools and I never felt the need to hire a professional consultant since he reviewed my essays a million times before I finalized them.

He was the one explaining to both our families how much our lives would change if I convert my dream school whenever they had questions on why we were doing what we were doing.

2. Support System – He kept me going

The stress of applying to a top business school is like running a marathon. You have to set goals, develop a plan, and train. He made me less fearful in this journey. I faced rejections and almost gave up at times. I had encountered defeats earlier but these were breaking me down to the core and I was on the verge of deciding to quit altogether. But he was the one who kept me going.

3. Closed my loopholes – He completed me

While I fared well in terms of a lot of traits that are required to be successful professionally, I failed badly in a number of them. I lacked discipline and resilience that was quintessential for this journey while he modelled these traits perfectly in his personality. Right from strategizing my study plan to tracking the deadlines for each school he was flawless in everything. Hence, I began to emulate these best aspects of his personality.

For all those women who think that marriage and career can’t go hand in hand should think again. If someday I make it big in my life my husband shall be the biggest reason for it. I dream of the day when our kids will see us exemplifying marriage the way it should be – a happy partnership.






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